Curious About the Work, Not the Person
It’s possible to be curious about someone’s work without being curious about them. To study the output, craft, the thing, and never reach the person who built it; how they think, their intuition, and who they are when they do what they do.
Most personal development treats people the same way. The weekend workshop, the offsite, and the annual intensive all assess your performance. They engage the persona, the orchestrated self, and leave out the living self, the one who sees and seeks meaning in the world.
This recreational model of change happens outside the system that runs your ordinary life. A vacation is a break from your life, not your life itself. It ends, which is what makes it a vacation.